Look around you. The life you are currently living is a direct result of the vision you designed and enacted. It may be hard to accept and you may not even believe it. But if you really think about it, your thoughts have brought you to the place you exist in right now. 

Try this exercise:

Take yourself to a quiet place. Relax. Think back.
Think back 5 years ago. Where were you? What were you striving for at that time? Did you get it? Did you try to get it?
Think back about where you were 10 years ago. What were you striving for at that time? When you were living your life 10 years ago; where did you think you would be at this current point in your life? Did you achieve it? Did you dream big for your self or did you want to just survive?
Now think back 20 years ago? What were you doing? Did you imagine the place you are in now when you were daydreaming 20 years ago?

When you practice this exercise, I suggest doing this a few times because you will remember different details of your past daydreams that you had forgotten about. Do this exercise in a private place. Do not feel compelled to share your thoughts with anyone else. As soon as you externally verbalize with another human being what your dreams were 20 years ago, you set the stage to alter history. I want you to be totally honest with yourself about what expectations you really had for yourself.
Now… look around you. Are you in the vicinity of your dreams?

For example. I live in an older farmhouse with my husband and 3 young grandchildren. I live amongst cornfields and cows. I am starting the career at the age of 50 that I always envisioned. Sometimes I look around and wonder… how did I get HERE?!?. Then I remember what I envisioned when I was 25 what my life would be like by the time I was 50. I always wanted to live on a farm. I always thought I would have a family chattering around me and I wanted a Career – not a job. And…
here I am. It didn’t happen the way I thought it would happen and it didn’t happen the way I thought it would it happen. But this is why I am here in this place writing these words… because it is the vision I had for myself.

I predict that if you think about the dreams you had for yourself – you will find you have achieved what you dreamt for yourself. And I mean what you really dreamt about. Did you really think you would be the top of the class and be president of the bank by the time you were 40? Or did your parents have that vision for yourself? Did you secretly think you were doomed to failure? If so, you have achieved that, haven’t you?

If you have achieved what you envisioned for yourself 10 years ago – whether you like it or not – then it Must be that you will achieve the goals you are currently dreaming. So let’s make sure your current dreams are accurately depicting what you really want to achieve.

How does your ideal day look? Now, what do you think tomorrow will really look like? Is there a disparity between those two visions? Which vision do you think will become a reality?

Your future (aka tomorrow) will be a mirror of what you envision your life to really be. Create a compelling vision for yourself. Make sure the vision you are creating accurately depicts exactly what you want your life to be. Because remember, your life will become what you think about.
It is a Law of the Universe that what you think about is what manifests in your life. I am a witness to this fact. But there is a caveat to this – you will get what you think about so think about what you truly want to manifest. Make sure it is what you really want.

Self-help programs will tell you to write down your ideal vision for yourself. They tell you to write down, in detail, what your perfect day would be. All of the self-help programs tell us this. There is a reason for this! Because you will manifest what you envision and embody. It really happens! It’s a Law of the Universe.
Self fulfilling prophecy.

Today, I want you to envision what your perfect day would be like. How will you feel? How will you start your day? Would you sleep in? Would you exercise.. make a big breakfast.. ? What would the rest of your day look like… Would you spend it with your family… working in the office… riding horses… working in a hospital? Remember, you are going to get it. It may not come when you want it to. It may not look exactly like you imagined it, but you will get it, so make sure you are envisioning what you really want
Dream accurately.

I am here to help you achieve what you really desire. Maybe you aren’t even sure what that is. I can help you with that too.

Contact me for Life Coaching

diane@thegreatlifeblog.com

Oh, the twists and turns life can take. You just never know do you, what is going to happen next? You are going along minding you own business and then wham! Something totally unexpected happens.

The first reaction most of us have is, “Why Me?”.

We are probably  a little angry ( or a lot angry). When the accident happens, the job loss occurs, the relationship crumbles – we can feel indignant at the prospect that something like this can happen to us. The inner dialogue goes something like this: “How dare the world do this to me! I work hard , pay my taxes, take care of my family. Why is the Universe punishing me like this?”

It’s OK to feel angry – for awhile. Anger is higher up the consciousness scale than apathy. Apathy means that you have given up. If feelings of desperate helplessness last for more than a week or so, please find someone to talk to. Don’t wallow in self pity. Find someone that will help you to pull yourself up by your bootstraps. I heard Anthony Robbins say something interesting the other day. He said that woman are naturally more empathetic than men. It’s that oxytocin thing – which seems like that would be  good. However, when a person needs a pep talk they don’t  need someone to say, “Oh poor baby. I know just how you feel. Let’s go eat brownies and shop.” If someone affirms your bad feelings then they reinforce  the bad feelings. What someone needs that is feeling beat up by the world, is for the caring friend to say, ” Come on! Dust off your pants and get back on the horse!”

Take stock of other issues you have overcome in your life.

We have all experienced setbacks. Even in Elementary School we learned to buck up and get on with it. We lose boyfriends and girlfriends, jobs, contests –  the list goes on and on. But we got over it. And looking back we realize it wasn’t really the end of the world – although it sure felt like  it then! Chances are we will look back at the current situation too and it will confirm our ability to rise above. Look back at your life and realize you are an amazing person. You have overcome all sorts of setbacks and managed to live a pretty good life.

Write down your past accomplishments. Take stock in everything you have overcome. Remember the boyfriend or girlfriend that dumped you and you survived. Remember the job promotion you got. Remember the job you wanted sooo bad but you didn’t get, but because you didn’t get that job another, even better, job opened up. Take stock in every addiction or destructive bad habit you have overcome. You made it through all of that and you will make it through this too.

Vow to find the positive in this situation.

The only way to find the silver lining is to look for it. It is the only way to thrive in life. I found myself recently in a situation that I didn’t expect.Our 3 pre-school grand daughters came to live with us permanently. Now, I just turned 50 years old this year, so having 3 little girls infiltrate my space was a bit overwhelming. The last thing I expected to be doing at this stage was looking for schools, babysitters and activities to do with a 4 year old! I love my grand daughters but having them live with us full time has been a great transition for my husband and myself. I was a little angry in the beginning ( well maybe a lot). At first I thought I could just add them to our current schedule. Wow, what a mistake! I now realize that I have to completely overhaul my life, including how I make my living. Enter, this blog. I decided that this situation was not going to make me crazy and mean. I decided this situation was a gift from God. The Universe was telling me I was on the wrong career path.  I wasn’t happy toiling away in a cubicle making someone else rich.This is my gift to finally spend my days doing work that I love and find fulfilling.

The difference between someone that finds the silver lining and someone that doesn’t –  -   they look for it.

View your life as a creative process not just a bunch of random events. When you take an active role in how your life will turn out, it is  empowering! Realize that you can determine the quality and tone of your life. You  are in charge.

Desire + Determination= Destiny

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Diane

Desire, Determination and  Destiny

In this life there are two kinds of people. There are those that make it and those who dream about making it.

Which one are you?

Are you the person that has the desire to accomplish their personal goal, the determination to see it through thus ensuring their own successful destiny?

We all know examples of two individuals that come from the same family and one of them thrives due to their personal experience and the other person fails due to the same personal experience.

Same family – two completely different outcomes.

What is the key that allowed that one person to be successful while the other was not?

I have been looking for those answers and I would like to share them with you. I know that you want to be successful and happy, just like I do.

My research keeps bringing me back to some of the same principles. Whether it’s Neville Goddard, Wayne Dyer, Tony Robbins or Louise Hay; there are some basic steps we all need to take to ensure success.

Each of these teachers tells us to emotionally attach ourselves to the outcome.

Neville tells us that “Feeling” is key. He advises us to imagine your desired outcome at night as you are drifting into sub-consciousness (sleep). Really feel what it will be like when you get that coveted job, lose those 25 lbs. or start your new business. Imagine a scene that you would experience and feel the emotions that would coincide with the experience. Neville tells us that our sub-conscious takes instruction from our conscious thoughts and manifests those thoughts and accompanying feelings into reality.

Tony Robbins also advises to do the same exercise in ‘Waking the Giant Within’. Tony doesn’t use spiritual language like Neville does but he advises us to write down our most desired goals and vividly rehearse it in your mind (feeling).  For example, if you wanted to own your own home, you would write down exactly what that house would look like. You would rehearse all of the small details; such as the smells in the kitchen to the curtains on the windows. These imaginings would trigger new neural pathways that unlock the keys to your success.

All of these strategies accomplish one significant goal.

These strategies and activities are intended to build your desire and determination.

By having a clear picture in your mind of what you want and walking your body through the accompanying emotions that you would experience in the realization of your goal you increase your Desire.

A burning desire then results in Determination.

Once you can feel how fabulous it will be to accomplish your personal goal your determination to achieve that goal will grow exponentially.

Destiny.

I had a personal quantum moment a few years ago. I was in that dream-like state that we all experience as we are waking from sleep when I heard a voice emanating from bedside, “You are in charge of your own destiny.” I awoke from my sleep to the expectation that I would see someone standing beside my bed talking to me! I heard that voice and had the sensation that someone was standing there! I will never forget that moment.

I don’t know why I was graced by God’s energy in that way on that particular day. The rest of the day was not exceptional. I was still drinking too much and engaging in other negative behaviors. But the feeling from that morning never left me.

I was given a gift that day.

I knew from that moment on that God was telling me that I had to take charge of my own life. No more waiting for a rich prince charming to come along or winning the lottery -  I needed to take personal action to change my life.

Desire + Determination= Destiny

Here is my 3 Step Process to achieve your Goals.

Desire – You need a sufficient and compelling object of your Desire.

              -Ask your self – what do you really want?

A new job, to get healthy, break an addiction? Ask your self, why.    Engage in brainstorming. What are the reasons? Now here is the important part… What will it feel like? Right now, take 10 minutes and close your eyes. How happy will you be when you accomplish your goal? Who will you tell? How darn happy will you be when you tell your boss, good-bye? How happy will you be when you tell your spouse that your new business is so successful that you are taking the whole family to Hawaii? How happy will you be when you put on that fabulous and sexy dress that is in the back of your closet – or put on that sexy bathing suit so your husband drools when he looks at you? How relieved will you be when you no longer obsess about having your next cigarette or drink? Really feel it!

I also advise doing the exercise that Neville talks about and that Wayne Dyer also writes about in his newest book.

In the last few delicious moments just before drifting into sleep, slip into the same feeling that you just conjured up in the previous exercise. Make a promise to never drift into sub-consciousness unless you are swimming in your new happy successful feelings.

Determination -  Every day make a deliberate effort to set the tone of your day. Do not make the false assumption that things will just ‘fall into place’ with no action on your part. Make a concerted determination every day to do at least three actions that will get you closer to your goal. And positive affirmations with feeling can be a part of your action plan. Never allow yourself to wallow in self-pity.

Your life will turn around and everything will ‘fall into place’ once you start making an effort. However, make no mistake, just dreaming about your goals will not make them a reality.

The difference between those who make it and those who dream about making it – is Determined Action towards your Desire.

Destiny – Just as the God Energy that spoke to me at my bedside so many years ago so succinctly said, “ You are in charge of your own destiny.”

You and I have the ability to create our own future.

I know that each one of us has the ability to create our own destiny. We are co-creators in our own reality. God gave us free will and with it the obligation to use our lives for the greater good of the Universe.

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In the midst of our hurly burly lives it is so easy to get lost in the mindless chatter that erupts aimlessly in our brains.  Our minds flit from what we will make for supper tonight to the project we need to finish at work to the argument we had this morning with a friend and on and on. It’s so easy to get distracted. Distractions cause missed deadlines and unfinished work. Distractions also prevent us from efficiently focusing on our goals.

The solution to ‘monkey brain’ is mindfulness.

Mindfulness is the feeling of being totally present in the moment. Mindfulness allows us to savor an important activity in our life such as a conversation with our child, a contemplative walk or even just sitting quietly.

Meditation is one way to mindfulness.

However if you have never really meditated before it may seem a bit off your usual path. Maybe you think meditating is for New Agers or people that have spare time. And who has spare time? After all, one of the reasons our minds flit around from thought to thought is because we have so much on our plates.

How in the heck are we going to find time to meditate?

I recently decided that I would try meditating regularly. I found, like many people, that I had a hard time focusing and succumbed to good ol’ monkey brain much of the time.

Then I tried just being mindful. I tried just being here now. I wasn’t thinking about tomorrow, I was thinking about right here right now. I didn’t pressure myself

I practice mindfulness while I take my morning walk-jog and  reap pleasurable benefits.

Here are 10 simple steps to incorporate mindfulness into your routine.

1.) Start by being kind to your self. Don’t make this one more goal that you have to accomplish or you will feel like a failure. This is just for you. You don’t have to tell anyone.

2.) Practice steady breathing. Be aware of the breath filling your lungs and then feel the air exhaling your lungs. Imagine all the good of the world filling your body and exhale all the bad stuff out.

3.) Counting your breaths is an excellent way to engage the part of your brain that you need to help you concentrate. Try doing 10 breaths – slow and steady. This well help you focus. I try to do 10 reps.

4.) I imagine my heart opening up and all of the loving kindness I possess flows out into the energy field around me. I AM loving kindness when I am in that state.

5.) I feel God’s total unconditional love pouring over me like the warm morning sun. I allow myself to feel joy and happiness.

6.) If unkind or busy thoughts enter your mind, just gently tell them to go away for now – you can deal with them when you are done

7.) To help staying mindful of the moment be aware of the sound your feet make on the surface that you walk on. Hear your breath.

8.) If you need more help staying mindful, visualize your feet, be aware of how they feel as you are walking. Move your way up your body. Now feel your shins, knees, thighs…

9.) Remind yourself that this is a gift you are giving your self. It will make your day better and more productive. You deserve to have 15 minutes of happiness to start your day!

10.)You can choose to focus on whatever makes you feel good. Remember you are an energy field. Whatever you focus will manifest into reality. Make your energy field a positive and loving one.

I have discovered that sonce O started this mindfulness routine, I can pull from the feeling when I am having a strssfil moment. As the caregiver of 3 toddlers, I find myself in the middle of many stressful situations. I imagine that loving kindness that I focused on during my morning experience flowing down over us during those stressful times.

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